Get rid of space_map_update() for ms_synced_length

Get rid of space_map_update() for ms_synced_length

Initially, metaslabs and space maps used to be the same thing
in ZFS. Later, we started differentiating them by referring
to the space map as the on-disk state of the metaslab, making
the metaslab a higher-level concept that is metadata that deals
with space accounting. Today we've managed to split that code
furthermore, with the space map being its own on-disk data
structure used in areas of ZFS besides metaslabs (e.g. the
vdev-wide space maps used for zpool checkpoint or vdev removal
features).

This patch refactors the space map code to further split the
space map code from the metaslab code. It does so by getting
rid of the idea that the space map can have a different in-core
and on-disk length (sm_length vs smp_length) which is something
that is only used for the metaslab code, and other consumers
of space maps just have to deal with. Instead, this patch
introduces changes that move the old in-core length of the
metaslab's space map to the metaslab structure itself (see
ms_synced_length field) while making the space map code only
care about the actual space map's length on-disk.

The result of this is that space map consumers no longer have
to deal with syncing two different lengths for the same
structure (e.g. space_map_update() goes away) while metaslab
specific behavior stays within the metaslab code. Specifically,
the ms_synced_length field keeps track of the amount of data
metaslab_load() can read from the metaslab's space map while
working concurrently with metaslab_sync() that may be
appending to that same space map.

As a side note, the patch also adds a few comments around
the metaslab code documenting some assumptions and expected
behavior.

Reviewed-by: Matt Ahrens <mahrens@delphix.com>
Reviewed-by: Brian Behlendorf <behlendorf1@llnl.gov>
Reviewed by: Pavel Zakharov <pavel.zakharov@delphix.com>
Signed-off-by: Serapheim Dimitropoulos <serapheim@delphix.com>
Closes #8328