ifupdownmain: redo shared dependent checks

ifupdownmain: redo shared dependent checks

Ticket: CM-10027
Reviewed By: julien, nikhil
Testing Done: Tested with an interfaces file with shared dependents

In the process of fixing this saw a few more issues with link kind
handing. Its better to separate kind from interface private flags
like bond slave and bridge port. this patch cleans up all that handling.

Example errors:
error: misconfig..? swp5.2 vrfslave  is enslaved to multiple interfaces
['vrf1012', 'br2']
error: misconfig..? swp5.2 bridgeport  is enslaved to multiple
interfaces ['vrf1012', 'br2']