netlink: do not enter direct reclaim from netlink_dump()
Since linux-3.15, netlink_dump() can use up to 16384 bytes skb
allocations.
Due to struct skb_shared_info ~320 bytes overhead, we end up using
order-3 (on x86) page allocations, that might trigger direct reclaim and
add stress.
The intent was really to attempt a large allocation but immediately
fallback to a smaller one (order-1 on x86) in case of memory stress.
On recent kernels (linux-4.4), we can remove __GFP_DIRECT_RECLAIM to
meet the goal. Old kernels would need to remove __GFP_WAIT
While we are at it, since we do an order-3 allocation, allow to use
all the allocated bytes instead of 16384 to reduce syscalls during
large dumps.