RDMA/ucma: Do not use file->mut to lock destroying

RDMA/ucma: Do not use file->mut to lock destroying

The only reader of destroying is inside a handler under the handler_mutex,
so directly use the handler_mutex when setting it instead of the larger
file->mut.

As the refcount could be zero here, and the cm_id already freed, and
additional refcount grab around the locking is required to touch the
cm_id.

Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20200818120526.702120-8-leon@kernel.org
Signed-off-by: Leon Romanovsky <leonro@mellanox.com>
Signed-off-by: Jason Gunthorpe <jgg@nvidia.com>