hw/virtio: generalise CHR_EVENT_CLOSED handling

hw/virtio: generalise CHR_EVENT_CLOSED handling

..and use for both virtio-user-blk and virtio-user-gpio. This avoids
the circular close by deferring shutdown due to disconnection until a
later point. virtio-user-blk already had this mechanism in place so
generalise it as a vhost-user helper function and use for both blk and
gpio devices.

While we are at it we also fix up vhost-user-gpio to re-establish the
event handler after close down so we can reconnect later.

Signed-off-by: Alex Bennée <alex.bennee@linaro.org>
Reviewed-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Raphael Norwitz <raphael.norwitz@nutanix.com>
Message-Id: <20221130112439.2527228-5-alex.bennee@linaro.org>
Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>