Fix problems in zvol_set_volmode_impl

Fix problems in zvol_set_volmode_impl

- Don't leave fstrans set when passed a snapshot
- Don't remove minor if volmode already matches new value
- (FreeBSD) Wait for GEOM ops to complete before trying
  remove (at create time GEOM will be "tasting" in parallel)
- (FreeBSD) Don't leak zvol_state_lock on open if zv == NULL
- (FreeBSD) Don't try to unlock zv->zv_state lock if zv == NULL

Reviewed-by: Ryan Moeller <ryan@iXsystems.com>
Reviewed-by: Brian Behlendorf <behlendorf1@llnl.gov>
Signed-off-by: Matt Macy <mmacy@FreeBSD.org>
Closes #11199