metaslab_verify_weight_and_frag() shouldn't cause side-effects

metaslab_verify_weight_and_frag() shouldn't cause side-effects

`metaslab_verify_weight_and_frag()` a verification function and
by the end of it there shouldn't be any side-effects.

The function calls `metaslab_weight()` which in turn calls
`metaslab_set_fragmentation()`. The latter can dirty and otherwise
not dirty metaslab fro the next TXGand set `metaslab_condense_wanted`
if the spacemaps were just upgraded (meaning we just enabled the
SPACEMAP_HISTOGRAM feature through upgrade).

This patch adds a new flag as a parameter to `metaslab_weight()` and
`metaslab_set_fragmentation()` making the dirtying of the metaslab
optional.

Reviewed-by: Matt Ahrens <matt@delphix.com>
Reviewed-by: Brian Behlendorf <behlendorf1@llnl.gov>
Signed-off-by: Serapheim Dimitropoulos <serapheim@delphix.com>
Closes #9185
Closes #9282