Expose zfs_vdev_open_timeout_ms as a tunable

Expose zfs_vdev_open_timeout_ms as a tunable

Some of our customers have been occasionally hitting zfs import failures
in Linux because udevd doesn't create the by-id symbolic links in time
for zpool import to use them. The main issue is that the
systemd-udev-settle.service that zfs-import-cache.service and other
services depend on is racy. There is also an openzfs issue filed (see
https://github.com/openzfs/zfs/issues/10891) outlining the problem and
potential solutions.

With the proper solutions being significant in terms of complexity and
the priority of the issue being low for the time being, this patch
exposes `zfs_vdev_open_timeout_ms` as a tunable so people that are
experiencing this issue often can increase it as a workaround.

Reviewed-by: Matthew Ahrens <mahrens@delphix.com>
Reviewed-by: Richard Yao <richard.yao@alumni.stonybrook.edu>
Reviewed-by: Alexander Motin <mav@FreeBSD.org>
Reviewed-by: Don Brady <don.brady@delphix.com>
Reviewed-by: Brian Behlendorf <behlendorf1@llnl.gov>
Signed-off-by: Serapheim Dimitropoulos <serapheim@delphix.com>
Closes #14133