Replace libzfs sharing _nfs() and _smb() APIs with protocol lists

Replace libzfs sharing _nfs() and _smb() APIs with protocol lists

With the additional benefit of removing all the _all() functions and
treating a NULL list as "all" ‒ the remaining all function is for all
/datasets/, which is consistent with the rest of the API

Reviewed-by: Brian Behlendorf <behlendorf1@llnl.gov>
Signed-off-by: Ahelenia Ziemiańska <nabijaczleweli@nabijaczleweli.xyz>
Closes #13165